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About half our class showed

About half our class showed up for the reunion: somewhere around 50. I talked to every single person there (with the exception of one guy). I figured, I drove three hours to get here and paid thirty dollars for some lousy keg beer and catered food...I might as well get my money's worth. So I mingled like a motherfucker.

I think a lot of people skip high school reunions for two reasons: either they just don't give a shit, or they are harboring some kind of resentment toward their classmates. I almost always give a shit and let's be honest: when it comes to a social function, there's a 95% chance that I'll there with bells on.

Which brings me to my second point: harboring resentment. I would be lying if I said I was the most popular person in high school, but I would also be lying if I claimed to be a tormented outcast. I was just kind of...there. I probably would have blended into the crowd, but I talk too much for that to happen. Anyway, there were certainly people at the reunion that I was not in any way close to, and that I even felt disliked by at one point or another. But I still went up to them, said hello, and tried to get caught up on the last ten years. High school was, after all, ten years ago. And it's sad and pathetic to let four years out of your long life define who you are today. Why does high school leave scars like that on people?

There was one person in particular who was bitter stinking biscuits about the whole thing, and openly rude to people. And I thought, how very sad that you can't move beyond your dislike of these girls who you thought of as "popular" and now, ten goddamn years later, you have to try to exact some kind of revenge by being petty and small. Who cares?

For my part, it was interesting to see how everyone turned out. I think most people's biggest fear is that they'll go to a reunion and everyone will be more successful than they are. I didn't feel that way at all. It's true that some people are married (both happily and otherwise), or have children, or advanced degrees or big fat diamonds, but driving back to my life from La Crescent this afternoon, I realized that I wouldn't trade my life for any one of theirs in a million years.

Posted August 11, 2002 10:26 PM



I wonder how many people skip these reunions because they moved majorly far away, they're in the jail house, or they're in the cemetery.

At my ten year I was amazed that 3 or 4 people from my class of 97 people that graduated in 1988 were already dead.

Hmmm....sounds like the goal of "spurious romantic entanglement" didn't occur.......though I must admit, I 've never been back to my high school for a reunion. Though I suppose it is a good 600 miles from my dwelling. Surely SOMBODY has croaked by now....it after all ummm...so far back in time I'm afraid to admit it ;P :D.

It's ironic that I read this post today because just last night I commented to my husband that my 20 year high school reunion will be in 5 years (which is a long time sure, but still *soon*). I told him that I'd only go if two of my pals that I still talk to decide to go. I have a lot of resentment about some folks I went to high school with. And I don't know why since I didn't even deal directly with these people. So I wonder what I'd do at a reunion. Would I sit in a corner and give them the evil eye, or go up and introduce myself and see if they are still snobs. I guess I'll know in about five years.

go introduce yourself! you'll feel so much better for being the bigger person and just letting it go. because in the grand scheme of things, it doesn't really matter.